NY Times has interesting feature about Mark Twain’s will

Yesterday marked the 100th anniversary of the death of Samuel L. Clemens, better known as Mark Twain.  The New York Times commemorated his passing with an interesting article about his final wishes.  The reporter dug up a copy of his handwritten will from the dusty archives of the probate court in Redding, Connecticut, which Twain called home until he died. The Times also published copies of other probate records from his estate, including a detailed inventory that listed the property he owned at death.  The executors reported his assets to be worth $541,136.07 (give or take a few cents) as of the date of his passing.  Not a bad sum for a man who found himself broke late in life and rebuilt his fortune in the ten years before he passed. His largest asset was “50 shares of the capital stock of the Mark Twain Company” valued at $200,000.  He owned a great deal of other stock, a 230-acre homestead, some automobiles, three horses and a cow.  The court documents detail his various holdings, including the value of furnishings of each room of his house. So what were his final wishes?  Twain left everything to his two daughters.  Sadly, one of his daughters, Jean, died on Christmas Eve 1909, only a few months after he wrote his will (on August 17, 1909).  Reportedly, Twain took the loss of his daughter hard.  The New York Times obituary said that he “Died of a Broken Heart.” Twain gave each daughter 5% of his total estate to start, with the rest held in trust for the two of them.  The protective father specifically directed that their shares were to be “free from any control or interference on the part of any husband she may have.”  The income from each trust was to be paid to the daughters on a quarterly basis, and each had the right to direct who would receive what was left when she passed.  But, because Jean died before her famous father, the other daughter, Clara, became the sole beneficiary. Twain also directed that his literary works be managed through consultation with Clara and a close friend of his, both of whom he had told how he wished his cherished writings to be handled. Here is the link to the New York Times article , which in turns has links to the documents themselves and the original Times obituary.  So how can the New York Times publish these documents?  Because wills and related filings in probate court are public record.  Trusts – on the other hand – are not, at least when they are created during life (thus the term “living trust”).  Twain’s will spelled out (in detail) how he wanted his property to be held in trust for his daughters.  This means he created a “testamentary trust” because the trust was established through his will and did not exist until after he died. In today’s day and age, living trusts are much more common and make more sense than testamentary trusts.  When properly used, they can avoid probate court entirely.  This not only keeps a family’s affairs private, but reduces costs, legal fees, time, stress, aggravation, and sometimes even hundreds of thousands of dollars (or more) in estate taxes.  Want to read more about celebrity wills, trusts and estates, and how they can help your family and legacy?  Visit our website www.TrialAndHeirs.com to learn more. By Andrew W. Mayoras and Danielle B. Mayoras, co-authors of “Trial and Heirs: Famous Fortune Fights!” and husband-and-wife legacy expert attorneys. As educators across the United States through speaking engagements, print, broadcast, and social media, Danielle and Andrew consistently draw rave reviews and are in high demand. Email them at  contact@trialandheirs.com .

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Memories from My Childhood Home

This past weekend my sister and I had the opportunity to visit a house I lived in from age 1 to 9.  During some of my visits back to my hometown I had driven by the house but never knew who lived there.  I saw how they had changed the front porch and had built a two-car garage.  They painted it yellow and added shutters.  It seemed like they were taking good care of it and that was all that mattered. One day my sister coincidentally realized that the woman she had met at a social event was the owner of that house.  The woman graciously welcomed us to tour it whenever we wanted, so this past weekend we called her.  I figured we’d walk through, recognize some features,  see what changes they had made, and leave.  I hadn’t expected we’d be there for over an hour while the house unlocked a cascade of long-forgotten memories from my childhood. From the minute we walked in, I remembered things I hadn’t thought about for years or hadn’t thought about since I’d lived there.  I remembered immediately where we had the piano and our first TV set.  I remembered my little red chair that was always on the porch where I would play (where IS that chair?).  I remembered our rose-colored couch and matching chairs that we gave away when we moved into our new house. When we walked into what was once my bedroom, I turned to my sister and reminded her of all the times she’d make up bedtime stories for me.  I remembered the metal lamp that was clamped onto the headboard.  I remembered a circular petunia bed my dad had planted in the backyard, outlined in white stones. I remembered being confined to my bedroom with measles and the balloons my dad brought me.  Even features that had changed didn’t stop me from telling them how it used to be.  The back door was in a different place than it was now but I was able to point out to the current owners where it was when I lived there and even found a small indication on the wall that it had indeed existed in that spot.  “There was a cupboard here HERE that held Oreo cookies.” When we got in the car my sister looked at me with some concern as though perhaps I had gotten a little carried away.  Living in the house was a different experience for her than it was for me.  Since there are nearly 14 years between us, she only lived there a few years before moving out.  The house had indeed come alive for me, making my memories come alive as well.  It wasn’t that the memories were painful, it was just that there were so many of them.  Where had they been all this time?  Stored in the walls, waiting for someone to recognize and validate their existence, I presume.  On my own, I would never have been able to to pull up those past moments.  But with the help of some subtle murmurs, I was able to recall a cascade of childhood patterns.  I have no doubt the house enjoyed the afternoon as much as I did. An excerpt from Carole’s upcoming book “House Alive: Conversations with Your Home” due out in the fall 2010.

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Job Se-Clarity: A Feng Shui Approach

These days a lot of people I’m seeing are dealing with work issues.  Some are caught in a job they hate but don’t dare leave with the economy the way it is.  Despite the disdain of their job, they’re just thankful to have one, so they put up with bad working conditions and long hours.  Others just wish they had something that was bringing in money.  They want a quick Feng Shui fix to make it all better. There’s a problem with that because Feng Shui is driven by a participant’s ultimate intention.  Without an examination of what that could entail, placing a black rug in the Career area or in the north part of the house, traditional Feng Shui adjustments, will not necessarily bring about changes.  It’s like giving a six-year-old the car keys and asking them to run an errand.  Yes, the car works, but the little driver isn’t clear on the concept. What isn’t clear about the concept of your job?  This is the question that should be asked.  I hear people say they’ve tried everything to get a new job and no one hires them.  I hear people say they’ve tried changing the situation at work, but no one listens.  It’s the wrong approach.  Rather than trying to make others change, the most productive approach is to change your idea of a job.  This is called “getting clear.” Metaphoric language is the main dialect spoken in Feng Shui.  In other words, when you’re feeling drained, you look for the physical drain in your home that may be symbolically representing your condition.  If you hear yourself say you’re “fried,” then you look for the physical fire element that may be at the heart of the matter.  When you’re lacking clarity, you find where your space is not clear. The Feng Shui way to change your job is to make sure you understand your motivations, your preferences, and your intentions.  That means rather than focus on getting a job, you focus on your feelings around getting a job.  What motivates you?  What is your ideal job?  What is the ultimate goal in having a job besides the money thing?  You access this information by getting clear. In fact, I call this the clear off/clear out/clear up approach.  Clear off horizontal surfaces (desk, dresser, tables, etc.) to mirror the clarity of purpose in your mind.  Clear our closets, garage, basement, etc., to reflect your open mind.  Clear up any “open loops”—unfinished business, matters that need to be settled, sentiments that need to be expressed—-to close up that loop and prepare you mentally and emotionally for the next step. Does this replace sending out resumes or going on interviews?  Of course not.  Does this replace the implementation of traditional Feng Shui cures?  Of course not.  But both actions will be so much more effective if you’ve cleared the air.

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Who’s in Front? Where’s in Back? A Feng Shui Dilemma

In the last couple of weeks I’ve discussed the issue of lake homes with a group of my students in the Wind & Water School of Feng Shui Masters’ program.  About the same time someone else sent me a question addressing the same situation.  The question reolves around which side of the house is considered the front when you live on a lake or have a spectacular view.  To some people the “front” is the view, but then that means the back of their home is facing the street.  To others the “front” of the house faces the street no matter what.  What can help determine which is front and which is back is by looking at what room you enter whe n you come into the house if you use the door closest to the street or road.  If you enter into a foyer and the living room, then that is the front door as it was intended by the builder.  If the door facing the street enters into the kitchen/laundry room/mud room, than that is the back of your home.  Each situation, however, requires some specific consideration. In the latter case where your home has its back to the street, in Feng Shui we would say you have turned your back on the world.  If this is a vacation or summer home, that could be an appropriate message since typically it’s being used as a retreat from day-to-day life.  If it’s being used year-round, however, then a conscious effort has to be made to invite or entice people around to the front of the house.  This can be done by an enchanting walkway, flowers, a bench or welcome sign.  It’s not that the so-called back door can’t and shouldn’t be used, but it means you need to make it clear there is another option. If you determ ine that the back of your home is where the view is most spectacular, you will also want to make sure that what comes in the front door doesn’t fly straight through your home and out the windows or sliding glass doors to the magnificence outside.  Find ways to entice the energy to linger for a bit inside the home.  Artwork, flowers, a spectacular rug, an interesting sculptural piece, a fountain—all of these can get the eye to touch in with the expression of who you are before being propelled out by the view.  Because Feng Shui works on the principles of energy and intention, holding a clear intention of what is the front and what is the back of your home can help ease any confusion for you and for your visitors.

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Feng Shui Conundrums in Your Kitchen

I had a lot of responses and questions regarding the tip sent out this week as part of the Wednesday Wind & Water Wisdom series concerning the position of the kitchen.  (If you are not getting a copy of these Wednesday Wind & Water Wisdom tipds, go to www.carolehyder.com right now to sign up for my newsletter.)  In this blog I offer some clarification, ideas, and reassurances.  Please know I’m speaking from a western version of Feng Shui which does not consider directions in positioning a kitchen.  Feng Shui is concerned with the flow of energy in a space.  One way to assess this flow is to determine how the energy moves through a home or office and whether there are places where it is stagnant or whether it flies through too quickly.  Another way to assess the flow of energy is to determine what kind of filter it moves through when it first enters a space.  You always want the energy near your front door to be enticing, offering a warm welcome as a first impression.  A kitchen challenges this idea. Kitchens should be in the back of the house.  The energy of a kitchen is strong and active due to the fir e of the stove, the heaviness of the appliances, and the general hub of activity that goes on in there.  Having a kitchen near the front door is a Feng Shui problem from three perspectives.  First, it can cause the nutritional value of the food to leave through the door, resulting in potential digestive issues.  The second problem is that it can cause weight gain.  Like a Pavlovian response, there’s an automatic need to eat something when your first trigger is the kitchen.  Finally, a kitchen near the front door can condone an “eat and run” attitude, discouraging people from staying around long enough to offer support when you need it. If possible, screen off the doorway into the kitchen or hang a cloth or beaded curtain to minimize its presence.  Or provide a distraction that pulls your eye away from the view of the kitchen—-a tall plant, a stunning piece of artwork, a fountain, an eye-catching rug.  All of these placed to attract your attention will pull the energy away from the kitchen and into another more appropriate part of the space, like the living room. If the side or back door is your most used entry point and it brings you directly into your kitchen, try entering your home through another door from time to time.  This will break the pattern of wanting to eat as soon as you get home.    So, if you have a kitchen near the front door and are struggling with some health or weight issues, or feel like you’re lacking support in your life, it may be time for you to figure out a way to bring energy into your space without being influenced by the message from your kitchen.

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Lessons From a House

Excerpt from Carole’s book House Alive: Conversations with Your Home to be released in 2010. Ben bought a small attractive home while he was going through a divorce. A big challenge he was facing was his ex-wife’s demand for money.  He was already paying child support, giving her their home and furnishings, turning over most of the retirement savings, and yet she wanted more.  There were three major challenges in the money area of Ben’s new home:  a fireplace, a missing piece, and a back door.  These features metaphorically matched his current situation:  money was being burned up (by the position of the fireplace); money was” missing” (mirrored by the missing area of the house); and the money that he did earn had a direct path out (through the back door).  As we discussed the reality of his home, Ben was discouraged and angry that he had walked into a scenario that echoed the situation around his failing marriage—-money challenges.  He was furious with himself at how much he had given to his ex-wife and wondered why he hadn’t taken a stand for his own needs and demands.  It was her idea to get a divorce, after all.  Ben was exasperated by the fact that he runs out of money before his next paycheck, despite the fact that he is one of the highest paid employees at his company.  Certainly the help of a therpaist provided insights to his beliefs.  And a Feng Shui consultation added more information and ideas.  It is my experience that living in a space which requires you to pay attention to a compromised area is the best way to learn about that issue.  As you make Feng Shui adjustments in the afflicted area, you see them as symbols for what needs to be changed.  As he hung a mirror over his fireplace, Ben learned to say “no” to his kids and to his ex-wife.  As he planted a lush and healthy plant in the missing money area outside the house, he saw that as a metaphor for committing to his budget no matter what.   Hanging a windchime by his backdoor in the money area was a continual alarm clock to remind him about re-building his own next egg.  For the first time, he watched his patterns and his emotions and was able to forecast when he might let down his financial boundaries and fall into a vulnerable spending spree.  He came to appreciate his money and treated it with respect.  Ben realized that his house, bought in a split second of despair, had provided him “opportunities”  to turn his issue around.  It was the steady presence of this little home, without judgment or impatience, that enabled him to dig deep and find some answers—and change a life-long pattern. As Ben saw it, the challenged money area in his house became an asset to him.

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Kiplinger’s article: Cut the Lawyer out of your Will?

Kiplinger’s Personal Finance Magazine has an interesting article that’s coming out in the March 2010 issue, about do-it-yourself estate planning.  It was written by Jane Bennett Clark, Senior Associate Editor: You’ve been dragging your feet for ages on writing a will and drawing up other estate-planning documents. Now, to avoid the hassle and expense of hiring a lawyer, you’re considering using online forms to get the job done. Companies such as Nolo, LegalZoom and Rocket Lawyer allow you to do just that. Not only do they provide do-it-yourself estate-planning documents, but they also offer guidance on filling them out and general information on estate-planning issues. The cost for such off-the-rack estate planning? As little as $50 for a simple will to $220 or so for a package that includes a will and a living trust. That’s cheap compared with the $300 a lawyer might charge for a simple will or the $1,000 or more that a comprehensive estate plan might run you. Still, you get what you pay for, says Danielle Mayoras, an estate-planning attorney and coauthor, with Andrew Mayoras, of Trial & Heirs (Wise Circle; $20 at Amazon.com). Although the products themselves may be sound, one size doesn’t fit all, says Mayoras. “They don’t address as many what-ifs as if you had an attorney with you.” Last will and testament. Using an online will makes sense if your finances and circumstances are uncomplicated, says Joanna Grossman, a professor at Hofstra University School of Law, but “people don’t know whether they do, in fact, have a simple situation.” If you go the do-it-yourself route, be sure to have the will properly witnessed, says Betsy Simmons, an estate-planning attorney at Nolo. “You’re not done until you do all the things that make it official.” If your situation is, in fact, more complex — you want to disinherit a family member, say, or provide for a child with special needs, or shield a large estate from estate taxes — consult a lawyer. (The federal estate tax was repealed for 2010, but Congress is expected to reinstate it retroactively.) Revocable living trust. Often used for large or complex estates, this vehicle lets you transfer ownership of your assets to a trust that you control and avoid the public process of probate when you die. If you decide you need a living trust, hire a lawyer. Trusts are, by nature, tailored to particular situations, and they have a lot of complicated rules, warns Grossman. A lawyer will also have you fund the trust properly, which involves transferring the title on everything — from the deed on your house to bank and brokerage accounts — from your name to the trust. Failure to do so (a common rookie mistake) renders the trust inoperable, says David Shulman, an estate-planning attorney in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. Durable power of attorney. This document lets you appoint a representative to manage your financial affairs should you become incapacitated. Depending on your intentions — and state law — it goes into effect either as soon as the document is executed or if you become mentally incompetent. In contrast, a regular power of attorney ceases to exist if you become incapacitated. It pays to work with a lawyer to make sure you use the right documents and choose the right person for this important job. Advance directives. You need two state-specific documents: a living will, in which you specify the treatment you want to receive if you cannot speak for yourself, and a durable health-care power of attorney, in which you appoint someone to make health-care decisions on your behalf when you cannot. They are available free through hospitals and state medical societies. You don’t need a lawyer to fill them out, but you should discuss the provisions with a doctor and your health-care proxy before signing the documents. [ click here to see the article on Kiplinger.com ] The article has some good advice.  We always advocate working with an experienced estate planning attorney .  People who try to use a preprinted form, or trust or will kit, usually end up costing their families much more than they save in legal fees.  Don’t take shortcuts with your legacy! Posted by:  Andrew W. Mayoras & Danielle B. Mayoras, co-authors of Trial & Heirs :  Famous Fortune Fights! and co-founders and shareholders of  The Center for Probate Litigation and  The Center for Elder Law   in metro-Detroit, Michigan, which concentrate in probate litigation, estate planning, and elder law.  Andrew & Danielle are husband and wife attorneys.

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Did Brittany Murphy forget to update her will?

Everyone was shocked when actress Brittany Murphy died suddenly at age 32 on December 20th, 2009.  She left behind a husband, Simon Monjack, of two and a half years and a mother with whom she was very close.  Reportedly, her mother lived with Murphy and her husband the last few years. Only one day after her tragic passing, celebrity gossip website TMZ posted an article saying that Murphy had a will, but one that was created before her marriage.  The report stated the will left everything to her mother and nothing to her husband. It also stated Brittany’s house was held in a trust which also left it to her mother, not her husband.  Another website said the house — which Murphy had purchased from Britney Spears in 2003 for almost four million dollars — was held in a trust called the “Nina Bow Trust”. At this point, it’s too early to tell if the reports are accurate.  Wills are public records and are available to the media and websites alike, but only once they are filed.  That doesn’t happen one day after someone passes away. Also, when people do the proper estate planning, and hold their assets in trusts, there is no need for a will to be filed.  Rather, the trust controls what happens with the person’s property, privately and out of court. But, it certainly wouldn’t surprise me if the TMZ report is accurate.  Many young people with money — including celebrities like Heath Ledger — fail to update their will, trust and other estate planning documents after important life events.  As discussed in the book, Trial & Heirs:  Famous Fortune Fights! , Ledger failed to revise his will after his daughter was born, for example.  So Murphy’s reported failure to update her will and trust would not be unusual.  Of course, maybe there was no failure at all — maybe she didn’t want to update them and include her husband. Either way, Murphy’s true wishes might not be followed.  Most states have  “pretermitted heir” laws that allow spouses and children who come along after a will was created to still share in the estate.  But, the amount varies from state to state, and the conditions vary as well.  For example, in some states the law applies both to wills and trusts, but in others the law applies only to wills. In Murphy’s home state of California, which is a “community property” state, the law allows spouses such as Monjack to share in about one-half of the estate, when they became married after the will or trust was created.  But, the law has exceptions when there is an agreement to the contrary (such as a prenuptial agreement), or if will or trust has language saying that the creator intentionally didn’t include a spouse, along with other exceptions. So, we’ll have to wait and see if Monjack will share in any of Brittany Murphy’s assets despite these reports that her will and trust don’t include him.  And, of course, this uncertainly may very well lead to probate proceedings that cost lots of money. Which is why this story should serve as a lesson for everyone.  Don’t wait to take care of your estate planning until you’re retired!  If you have assets or children, you need to have at least a will, and probably a trust as well.  Yes, even if you’re only 32 years old!  And always be sure to update your documents after major life events such as a marriage, divorce, or birth of a child.  You certainly don’t want to leave your legacy up to the laws of your state.  You owe it to your family to do the proper planning and make sure your wishes are followed. Posted by:  Author and probate attorney Andrew W. Mayoras, co-author of Trial & Heirs :  Famous Fortune Fights! and co-founder and shareholder of  The Center for Probate Litigation and  The Center for Elder Law   in metro-Detroit, Michigan, which concentrate in probate litigation, estate planning, and elder law.  You can email him at blog @ trialandheirs.com.

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Feng Shui Help for a New Job

An email came in from a follower asking for Feng Shui help in finding a new job after she had been laid off.  Her request was on the heels of two dear friends who likewise told me they had been down-sized or out-sourced.  The interesting part to me about this is that all three women intuitively started de-cluttering.  Their motivation for doing so wasn’t Feng Shui-driven but more a way to keep busy and to do something productive.  However, Feng Shui is very explicit that if you want to make a change in your life, then make a change in your space.  De-cluttering is a very effective way to lighten the load and get rid of anything that may be holding you back.  While working full-time, understandably none of them had the time to go through boxes and dresses drawers.  Now they do—and they are.

I applaud their efforts and cheer them on to do more de-cluttering, however just throwing things out or giving them away isn’t enough.  There’s an important step that I call the “thank and throw” process that can make a huge difference in outcome.  At one time all this accumulation was important and valued.  Just because it no longer serves a purpose, that fact should not diminish its original significance.  So, ladies, be grateful for all that you have and all that you’re about to not have.

Although de-cluttering doesn’t have to be site-specific, there is an area that would benefit the most during this job crisis and that is the career section of their home.  In fact, there are two areas that are important at a time like this:  the career area of the home based on the bagua and the career area based on the compass.  More than likely these two areas will not be in the same place.  Due to the fact there are two Feng Shui perspectives, there are moments when someone can take advantage of both.  The career based on the bagua is the front middle section of the home or apartment; the career area based on the compass is in the north section of the space. 

I encourage you, fearless ladies, to take that “thank and throw” energy to both places and micro-manage:  de-clutter, clean, re-arrange, re-paint, improve in some way.  Additionally, hang or place a small round mirror in each of the career sections to ramp up the energy further.  Let it symbolize the reflection of a new job for each of you. 

As a disclaimer, let me say that de-cluttering and putting up mirrors does not replace networking, sending out resumes, and having interviews.  But let me also say, the practical always works better, faster, and easier when Feng Shui is pushing from behind.

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