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March 10, 2008

Affects of War

Filed under: Katana Abbott's Posts

Spring is just around the corner and I know I should be writing about something cheery and I really debated whether I should even discuss this issue with our readers, but I want to share this story with you…

I came home last night after being at an all day expo to find my daughters sitting in the dark looking as if the life had been drained out of them.  I asked what had happened and they told me that Eric was dead.  Eric was a Chelsea’s friend from high school who had been struggling with his life.  He had no family support, was living with a friend when their home burned to the ground.  One of the family members had died in the fire and his only hope to go to college was joining the army.  He adjusted very well and was going to be coming home early next year…but he never made it to college.

Our family watches intervention and last week we watched a show about a young boy who was also having trouble in his life, so he joined the army.  When he came home, he became a severe alcoholic.  He left rehab and is still drinking. 

Our events coordinator, Megan, was with some old friends who did make it back from Iraq this year.  They too have been drinking Jack Daniels on the rocks…every day.  She says they were showing pictures they had taken of people they had killed.  All I know is that I want our boys to come home healthy and to be able to live normal lives.  This is the first time our family has experienced the effects of this war personally and I wonder how you feel.  Please feel free to share your thoughts or experiences. 

My father was in the service and fought in the Korean War.  He actually died in 1963 during active duty with the Vietnam War, but he was duck hunting and in an accident.  I wonder if I would have felt differently about his death had he been killed during a battle.

I believe peace for our country is just around the corner and I hope we can become a nation that is respected for peace keeping and peace making.  Let’s welcome these men and women when they return from war help them transition back to lives of hope and opportunity.

March 6, 2008

Letters from Africa #30

Filed under: Letters From Africa

Dear Family and Friends,

This part Southern Africa just can’t seem to get a break. The rains simply won’t stop. Everyone here says they have never seen this much rain in their lives. In Church last week the congregation was praying for the rain to stop! This is unprecedented. At every service I’ve been to for the past two years the prayers have been for rain. “Be careful what you wish for”, has gained a whole new significance.

The road (if you could call it a road – a track really) to this village is now entirely washed out. Not even 4×4s can get within several kilometers of the village. I’ve had to do a lot of village to village traveling these last few weeks and every trip has been a very wet adventure. There is one area that is a series of sandstone rocks that has to be climbed either up or down to get to and from a neighboring village. It is no a waterfall that must be scaled. To say I’ve been getting wet is such an understatement. Yesterday I rode Lance to a meeting in Mate. We had to cross a river. I gave him his head and balanced with my feet up on the saddle. The water came over his stomach but my brave horse kept his footing and we didn’t have to swim. Just my trailing skirt got wet. The ever-watching villagers ululated and clapped when we reached the other side. Sometimes this job is really fun!

But the rain is exacting a terrible toll on the fragile economy here. Some crops are rotting in the fields. It’s time for the corn and sorghum to be drying out for harvest but it just keeps raining. Our winter vegetable fields, which lie in lowland close to the river, were completely washed out just after planting. We lost every seed and every seedling and had to spend valuable resources replanting. At the moment they are OK.

Here’s the worst part. The group that determines where the UNWFP food will be delivered –a totally corrupt group of officials collectively called the DMC (disaster management committee) just issued the edict that because northern Lesotho has been getting such wonderful rain, we have no more need for food deliveries – they are diverting our food elsewhere. My guess is into somebody’s pocket. Without even visiting our projects to determine the consequences of this decision they gave us 30 days notice. This is such a disaster for our projects. The 95 families that are fed by the UNWFP work projects are the poorest of the poor. Either they don’t have fields to plant or they didn’t have money to buy seeds for their fields or they are too old or sick to do the grueling labor that farming their land requires. We have an additional 57 families that are caring for orphans and vulnerable children (OVCs) that we’ve finally, after months of negotiations been able to get onto a UNWFP program for food aid and they too are now cut off. This DMC decision spells potential starvation for many of these good people.

I’ve just sent a letter to the head of the UNWFP protesting this decision. I wrote it but it was signed by the Member of Parliament for this area, the chairman of the Menkhoaneng Community Development Association and several chiefs. I’m hoping it will make a difference. As Peace Corps volunteers we are supposed to avoid any political involvement but this situation is testing my resolve to remain politically neutral. I have good friends at the newspapers that I would like to ask to write an expose on the DMC. We’ll see. The DMC is the same group that allowed 400 50kgt bags of cornmeal to rot in a warehouse because they had spent the funds for delivery on “workshops” at a posh resort in South Africa. This was during the time that we were pleading for help and being told there was no food available –a time when we were burying adult corpses weighing 80 pounds.

On the positive side, what we’re doing in face of these recent challenges is planting winter vegetables like mad. There are still lots of good fields. We’ve ceased work on the cultural village and every able-bodied man, woman and child is working on expanding our community-cooperative gardens. If the winter is mild we should have cabbage, swiss chard, beets and a type of spinach that is tough and resilient to cold. We are also buying all the excess corn and sorghum from those lucky farmers who’ve escaped the floods to help get the poorest of the poor through the coming winter months. We’ve received some generous contributions to the American Friends Fund lately and the Association is doing an admirable and intelligent job is allocating the money wisely. No one has starved to death in this or the surrounding villages for over a year now and our goal is to maintain that record. The steely determination of these good villagers to protect those in need in their community is very inspiring. It spurs my efforts to bang on the doors
of those in power.

The Village Association has applied for another PCV to replace me when I leave in July. I’m so hoping they get one. There are so many more applicants than there are volunteers. Really, the Peace Corps should be a much bigger organization. Do you know the annual budget for the entire global operation is somewhere around $350 million? We spend that in less than a week in Iraq.

I recently attended an all-volunteer conference in Maseru. The session on “best practices” made me so proud to be an American. The work that my fellow PCVs are doing here is making a real difference. You’d be astounded and proud of their accomplishments – computer labs, orphanages, traveling puppet shows to teach children about AIDS, income generating projects like pig farms and craft shops – it’s just wonderful. In this little country, where the Peace Corps has been active for almost 40 years, everyone loves Americans. They see us as helpful and generous and peaceful. In many ways this is a very comfortable place to be.

And on that note I’ll close with love from the quite soggy heart of Africa,
Peggi

No-Stress Beginnings

Filed under: Guest Authors

Dr. Stacey FrancisBy Dr. Stacey Francis, Smart Women’s Café Contributing Expert

Our sights are on bathing suit season. We have gotten awfully comfy in our oversized sweatshirts and baggy pants over the last few months. Are you looking at all the weight loss books wondering which one holds the magic for you? I say stop looking. I’m going to introduce you to the No-Stress way to achieve your body goals.

Most importantly, be realistic with yourself. Are you going to the gym just so you can eat those late night potato chips or that pint of choco-lishis ice cream? Or are you eating barely anything because you tell yourself you can’t make it to the gym? I hate to inform you of something you already know, but these strategies are not going to get you into the cute shorts you have your eyes on. So cut out the self sabotage.

Start with eating. In fact, eat lots! Eat a lot of Fruit and vegetables. Eat lean proteins and eat (but don’t overeat) whole grains. Choose low glycemic index foods. These are foods that don’t increase your blood sugar quickly. They are the foods I just mentioned, they are not white bread, white pasta, white potatoes, corn, or sugar.

Eat often. Eating every 2 ½ to 3 hours will maintain your blood sugar. This will help you feel satisfied throughout the day and help you prevent diabetes and heart disease. Eat smaller meals since you are eating more frequently and if you are at a restaurant, ask them to bring you a take out container when they bring your meal. I know it tastes great and you want to eat it all in one sitting, but remember you get to eat that wonderful food again in just a few hours.

Eat a lean protein at every meal. That means you are eating a protein every 2 ½-3 hours. Muscle is made of protein and increasing muscle helps to increase your metabolic rate, the rate at which you burn calories. And we want to burn calories right? But we don’t want to lose muscle, we only want to lose extra fat.

“What about exercise?” you may ask. Well of course you need to exercise, you already knew that, but take the stress out. Find 20 minutes in the morning to do your thing. That can be chasing your kids in the snow, salsa dancing or sweating it out at the gym, but do it for 20 minutes every day. If you are lifting weights, also called strength training, that will help you build muscles and now you know that increasing muscle increases your metabolic rate which means you are burning more calories.

Guess what? It’s not easy. We want it to be easy, it’s not easy. But it doesn’t have to be work. Make it fun. Say it’s fun to yourself and everyone you come in contact with. Create eating to improve your body and your health to be the most fun and least stressful thing you do for yourself. Then enjoy those shorts.